Do failures Necessarily Lead to Success?

Almost everyone of us is familiar with the very well known proverb that failures are the stepping stones to success. They say that to achieve success failure is a must and almost all the renowned and pre-eminent personalities who got the opportunity to climb the stairs of immortality had to face the torment of failure at least once in their lifetime. But there is one question still unanswered. Does failure necessarily lead to success? And the most important point, is the concept of failure and success necessarily applicable to each and every individual who wants to do something profound in their life? Let us understand the same with the help of a story.

Once there were four boys studying in the same class and all of them were weak in their academic studies. They all wanted to do something big in their life but almost all of them were devoid of self confidence and they were all aware that they would probably fail in their final examination. When their academic results got published the first one among them fortunately got good results and he went on to improve further. However, the rest three boys failed miserably as it was expected. The second boy among the four took his failure in a positive way and he made firm decisions to learn from his mistakes to give all he can in his rest life. The third boy among them only thought that since failures eventually lead to success he’ll surely achieve his dream one or the other day and he went on dreaming hoping that his dreams will come true although knowing simultaneously that he’s making almost no attempt to make his dream come true. The fourth boy in turn couldn’t bear the anguish of failure and he gave up for ever.

Now tell me how will you say that failures necessarily lead to success if the story of the third and the fourth boy is considered as the base of your judgement? What I want to mean is that neither I’m against the proverb not it’s idea. It’s so flawless that failures have potentiality to teach us far more than success can but it will be fruitful only when the very person who failed is willing to make certain adaptations. Merely going through repeated failures and hoping to, somehow, taste success one day is nothing more than delusory. A failure can only be a stepping stone if it’s firmly placed to lead you to your desired goal, otherwise it’s just a worthless piece of rock blocking your progress. In fact, I find this whole idea of exaggerating failures in order to achieve success utterly useless.

So what should be our attitude towards failure if in case we encounter it (which we’ll surely do today or tomorrow)? Here are some ways to develop a positive attitude towards failures:

  • The first and the most important point is that if you want to achieve something never think about the obstacles which will come along the way right at the beginning ’cause the more you’ll think the more it will make you anxious.
  • Remember you’re not the only person fighting for your dreams and undergoing the excruciating hours of failure. Thomas Edison, whose most memorable invention was the light bulb took him 1,000 tries before he developed a successful prototype. “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” a reporter asked. “I didn’t fail 1,000 times,” Edison responded. “I discovered rather 999 ways in which a light bulb cannot be made”.
  • Remember experience is life’s greatest teacher. You’re failure may seem fruitless to you at present but the same can be your greatest strength if you’re willing to change yourself.
  • Do not let hurdles creep into your talks with others. Avoid talking negative about anything. Always smile when talking to others and be positive in your speech. Develop a positive and hopeful outlook towards life in general.
  • Never confuse ‘set backs’ with ‘failures’. We all suffer from various set backs in our lives but we don’t actually fail until we give up. Any situation or outcome cannot be termed as a failure. It’s our own perspective which decides whether we’re a failure or not in the long run.
  • Remember even if you conquer every height and make every possible effort there’ll still remain a sigh that you could have done better. So never let anything demotivate you and reward yourself for what you’ve got through your hard work rather thinking about those which you failed to achieve.

No doubt we all feel an emotional low after we have failed, that is natural in all human and inevitable. But how we respond to our failures is what determines our road to success. If you feel an emotional low after you have failed, read or listen to stories of people like Walt Disney or J.K. Rowling and their journey to where they are now. Remember nobody just becomes a genius in one day, it is the result of many sleepless nights and perseverance. There was a time when even Shakespeare had to go through the ABC’S of English and Einstein had to learn calculus. So believe in your dreams, never give up and remember to make your decisions wisely and of course firmly. Only then you’ll be surprised to discover how the Alps and the Himalayas are sinking before you.

83 Comments Add yours

  1. Success Require No Explanations and Failure Permit No Alibis

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Well said. Thanks for sharing your thought. Have a great day ahead.

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  2. gabychops says:

    A wise post and I agree with every word.

    Thank you.
    Joanna

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much. Glad you liked it.

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  3. Elle Frances says:

    Insightful post 😌 -got me thinking! I think failure has the potential to inspire something positive in us, whether that’s a change in our lives or how we choose to feel or approach things thereafter.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much. I do agree with your thought. Thanks for commenting. Have a great day ahead.

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      1. Elle Frances says:

        You’re so welcome. Same to you 🤍

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  4. Thank you for writing this. I agree that the “failure leads to success” trope is overused and that it is an oversimplification.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much for agreeing with me. Have a great day ahead.

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  5. Wonderful advice to put into practice, thank you.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Glad you liked it. Have a great day ahead.

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  6. Failures may not lead to success but they can lead to success!

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Good use of may and can. Thank you so much for commenting.

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      1. “Failure can lead to success if the one who failed don’t give up of course, and stay the course.” _-Van Prince

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        1. Shayan Das says:

          Good quote. Thanks for sharing.

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      2. Thanks! Your examining spirit of over-used sayings is good too

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  7. So, my life is more about failures. I failed a lot time in my life, was not strong enough to perform like my friends were doing.

    There is a strong will inside me since beginning to grow myself. I am learning basics of living a normal social life.

    My success don’t lie on a certain point it. My success formula :

    My hard work and efforts in a definite time period = it’s outcomes for a certain time period

    I have to learn skills and gain abilities in a definite time which will be useful for me for certain point of time and a time period.

    Learning never ends, so, I’ll receive outcomes continuously. They are maybe in my favour or not, I’ll manage them.

    I belive in keep moving and gaining values and abilities with the time. I’m a learner.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Keep alive that learning spirit always bro. And you shouldn’t compare yourself with your friends ’cause all have their own talents. We must not compare ourselves failures on the basis of just one criteria. I’m sure none among your friends could write or think as good as you do.

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      1. Thanks, brother. Have a good day.

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  8. haoyando says:

    We always hope, don’t we? The phrase is about hope rather than about the possibilities. LOL.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Yes you’re right. Hope springs eternal in human breast. Let’s hope for the best.

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  9. AnuRijo says:

    Brilliant words of wisdom
    Keep going
    Anu@Lafemina 😊

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much. Have a great day ahead.

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  10. Necessarily, no! But they are definitely necessary most of the times for success — whatever success might mean! And because of that someone should not be discouraged of the necessary failures he must meet before succeeding; they are simply part of the programme 🙂
    As for the attitude, I’m sure about the first point. By trying to see the whole picture, obstacles included, yes you might get discouraged (although you shouldn’t, as I wrote above) but you will get prepared for those obstacles. You would probably get discouraged even more if you would meet those obstacles all of a sudden. However, I would agree that someone should not focus on the obstacles but to the thing he wants to achieve instead!

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    1. I’m not sure about the first point*

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    2. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting on my post. I do agree with your words. Failures are no doubt necessary for success but we cannot tell with surety whether by just undergoing a series of failures someone will achieve success. After all it all depends on who’s at the helm and how’s taking his failures.

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  11. -Eugenia says:

    Beautifully written and wise words.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much.

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      1. -Eugenia says:

        You’re most welcome!

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  12. cheriewhite says:

    Amazing post, Shayan! I never thought of it quite like that but you’re right! Thank you for posting such wise words! 🙂

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much. Glad you liked it. Have a great day ahead.

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      1. cheriewhite says:

        And you as well. 🙂

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  13. tanishkbatham says:

    Your words are influential and noteworthy. And I believe the proverb was meant for what you said, but its meaning was twisted to open the gateway for mediocrity. Failures and success are byproducts of effort. Stagnancy is what we should be averting. Effort is the stepping stone in the pursuit of meaning.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting on my post. It really means a lot to me. Wish you a great day ahead.

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  14. ayushsharma8 says:

    Diamond not make..in hour…it ..need centuries…to glow..

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Well said. Thanks for commenting.

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  15. ‘We don’t actually fail until we give up’ I love it

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much. Glad you loved it.

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      1. You are welcome

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  16. Jas krish says:

    Well articulated..
    Success is certainly not dependent on failures….it is dependent on the trials one is willing to undergo….The ability to imagine and to follow that imagination till.it turn into reality is what leads to success…..some obstacles may or may not be encountered enroute …
    One who learns from obstacles and moves on is the one who succeeds..
    Stay blessed 🙏

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  17. Truly insightful, inspiring and thought provoking post. It is our perspective on what we take from a setback…a stronger and determination or Well written 👏

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    1. *a stronger determination or a weaker will. Well written!

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  19. Condivido ma spesso occorre tempo, anche anni per comprendere e imparare dai propri errori!
    Post bello e incoraggiante! 🙋‍♀️
    T

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  20. penhive says:

    Informative and motivational.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much

      Like

  21. Butterfly says:

    True one should be willing to make improvements, if not then no one can help them!

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  22. Jan says:

    A teacher once said to me there’s no such thing as failure only feedback

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Your teacher is a man of wisdom. Thank you so much for commenting.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you🙏

      Like

  23. E.T. says:

    Really good post and inspiring in so many ways.

    Like

  24. CarolCooks2 says:

    A good post if we can take positives from a failure and treat is as a stepping stone or a learning curve success will come 🙂

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much for commenting. Means a lot to me 😊

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      1. CarolCooks2 says:

        You are welcome, Shayan.. I wish you well for your next journey in life 🙏

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  25. Great inspiration never though of it in this direction…but once you fail in something i know you need double energy and positive vibe to archive success

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting on my post. It really means a lot to me. Wish you a beautiful day ahead.

      Like

      1. Here its evening anyways thanks for well wishes

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  26. This is a great post that spreads awareness. There are many people that don’t really understand how failures lead to success. They just think it happens magically, but that is not true. Amazing post, well written.

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  27. dsbhat says:

    A well written piece. Gives a good perspective.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much❤

      Like

  28. lilyofthevalley777 says:

    Excellent post. Sound wisdom. Something you wrote in another comment above resonated within me, and I took what you said to heart. I often compare myself to myself and to others, and always come up short in my evaluation. However I don’t see myself being a failure per se, but an opportunity for self reflection in how I can be better at what I do. So here’s an example. I’ve always given 110% in whatever I do and in doing so I can see how it’s prepared me for my next position in life. Yet if I make a mistake, it stands glaringly in my face, then the thought of messing up seems like I failed in my attempt to achieve the best that I could be. It’s like a dichotomy right? You give so much of yourself on one hand, and on the other hand you think it was enough. Hence, I appreciate being introduced to your poetry and thoughtful wisdom. It’s positive food for thought which fills for my day. Blessings to you Shayan.

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  29. lilyofthevalley777 says:

    Excellent post. Sound wisdom. Something you wrote in another comment above resonated within me, and I took what you said to heart. I often compare myself to myself and to others, and always come up short in my evaluation. However I don’t see myself being a failure per se, but an opportunity for self reflection in how I can be better at what I do. So here’s an example. I’ve always given 110% in whatever I do and in doing so I can see how it’s prepared me for my next position in life. Yet if I make a mistake, it stands glaringly in my face, then the thought of messing up seems like I failed in my attempt to achieve the best that I could be. It’s like a dichotomy right? You give so much of yourself on one hand, and on the other hand you think it wasn’t enough. Hence, I appreciate being introduced to your poetry and thoughtful wisdom. It’s positive food for thought which fills for my day. Blessings to you Shayan.

    Like

  30. very interestingly presented post. well done.

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    1. Shayan Das says:

      Thank you so much. Glad you liked it.

      Like

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